🌿 Creating Energetic Space

There comes a point where even the most familiar spaces begin to feel too small — not because anything changed, but because you have.

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Before this new book of my saga began, I could feel a quiet discomfort — the knowing that my old environment had grown too small. I had reached a point not in crisis, but in awareness — an understanding that the space around me no longer matched the person I was becoming.

So before I finally left that environment, I had been going through everything in my life — every aspect — and taking an inventory of my connections, my surroundings, the objects that took up space in my room, my phone, my email. Every single place that could be considered a container or vessel for energy. Because everything, whether physical or digital, carries frequency. It all holds an energetic imprint from where it’s been and who it’s connected to.

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Before we can invite in new energy, we must make space for it to land.

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Looking back, I can see that this sifting process had been happening in cycles for years — subtle at first, then more defined as I learned to listen to my own energy.

Each season seemed to bring its own version of clearing, another invitation to release what no longer fit, and to make space for what was trying to find me.

I was aware of what I was doing — I just wasn’t aware of how pronounced the emptiness would feel once I finally stepped out into the liminal space that clearing created.

That strange in-between — where the old has fallen away but the new hasn’t quite arrived — felt both freeing and disorienting.

But even that space had purpose; it was where I learned what still had power over me, and what I was finally ready to release.

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The in-between is where clarity is born — it’s where your next chapter gathers light.

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I do want to preface this by saying that in my past, I’ve also been on the receiving end of this same kind of clearing.

During the depths of my addiction, two of my closest friends made the painful but necessary choice to walk away.

At the time, I couldn’t see it for what it was — an act of self-preservation and love — but now I understand it gave me a mirror I’d need later.

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Silence isn’t absence — it’s sacred space for self-discovery.

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Their decision created the space and silence I didn’t know I needed.

Without their presence to distract me — and as a lifelong people-pleaser and codependent who hadn’t yet begun the deep work of healing — I was finally left alone with myself.

That quiet was uncomfortable at first, but it became the catalyst for my growth.

It forced me to look inward, to face the parts of myself I’d avoided through connection and caretaking.

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Every ending plants the seed for a new kind of freedom.

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Addressing those patterns — the people-pleasing, the codependency — became part of healing myself as a whole. And like most healing, it wasn’t (and still isn’t) linear. While I’ve come a long way, those parts still show up in new ways at each level of growth, asking for more awareness and compassion. The truth is, healing doesn’t end; it deepens. There were and still are many aspects of myself that continue to unfold through this process, and that’s what makes it so human.

Their absence was painful, but it was also the beginning of my awakening. It taught me how important it is to create energetic space when something — or someone — no longer aligns with where you’re headed.

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Letting go doesn’t erase connection; it clears the path for what’s true now.

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So when I began my own clearing, I deleted all the contacts in my phone that I hadn’t spoken to in more than ten years. Then I deleted everyone I hadn’t spoken to in the last year, and so on. It wasn’t about judgment; it was about alignment.

And while it was definitely not easy, I had love for most of the people I deleted — many of them had been part of my life for years. But that doesn’t change the fact that I’m simply not the same person I was when we last connected. And since there haven’t been any real attempts to reconnect, I can only interpret that as meaning they feel the same.

By deleting their numbers and creating space, I wasn’t erasing the connection or the memories — those still matter and always will. It was about acknowledging that the energy between us had completed its purpose. Clearing that space didn’t negate what was shared; it just opened my energetic field for the next part of my journey.

I realized that in most cases, it had been over five years since I’d last spoken to them. So why was I still holding onto these energetic threads?

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Empowerment starts where reaction ends and intention begins.

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The thing about energy, in my experience, is that when it’s full, it’s full — and until we clear the space, there’s no room for the blessings to come in. Feng shui is very real, and that includes our digital spaces, too.

By the time I reached this point, I realized that what once felt like loss had transformed into choice. The earlier cycles of release had been life’s way of teaching me how to let go — but this time, I wasn’t being pushed. I was choosing. The difference was intention. Instead of reacting to endings, I was creating space on purpose — with awareness, clarity, and compassion. That’s when I understood what reclaiming my sovereignty really looked like: not control, but conscious participation in my own evolution.

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Releasing with compassion keeps love intact, even as paths diverge.

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Perspective is everything, too. Having a trusted guide — whether that’s a therapist, mentor, or energy worker — can make all the difference in how bearable change feels. It’s one thing to know when it’s time to release; it’s another to feel safe enough to do it.

Sometimes the simple act of having someone hold space while you move through the discomfort is what allows you to stay present instead of shutting down.

Support doesn’t make you weak; it’s what helps you integrate the lesson instead of just surviving it.

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Healing is most powerful when science and spirit work side by side.

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In my experience, I only had support from medical professionals, and while I’m grateful for that, I can see now that the absence of energetic and spiritual guidance made my journey longer and heavier than it needed to be.

That’s why it’s my belief that having a holistic team of support — including medical, therapeutic, and energetic professionals — can make all the difference.

Healing works best when we allow both the logical and the mystical to work together. We are whole beings, and we deserve care that honors all parts of that wholeness.

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Clean energy begins with honoring your own capacity first.

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I was going to say that releasing people isn’t personal — but the truth is, it is deeply personal. For me, it means recognizing my own limits and choosing to honor them before resentment takes root.

It doesn’t mean those who’ve been released are any less worthy — it just means I don’t have the capacity to show up for them without abandoning myself.

That’s the heart of energetic work, isn’t it? Honoring our own capacity first, so we can hold clean space for others.

If I’d heard this perspective from the friends who once distanced themselves from me, I probably would’ve called them selfish. And that would’ve been valid to feel — but not accurate.

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The shift from taking things personally to taking responsibility for my energy changed everything.

My whole life, I had never really allowed myself to say, “No, I don’t like feeling that way, and I’m allowed to limit this connection.”

Most of these relationships had already drifted naturally, and the distance only clarified what I’d been ignoring: I deserve relationships built on mutual effort, communication, and care — not one-sided energy that leaves me depleted.

And while I know that balance in relationships will never be a perfect 50–50 — because we’re human, and we move through seasons and cycles — that’s where discernment comes in.

It’s about recognizing when the scales have tipped too far for too long and choosing to honor that awareness before it turns into resentment or self-abandonment.

Honoring those feelings taught me how to trust myself — and that self-trust became the foundation of everything that followed.

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Self-trust is the foundation that keeps your energy balanced and true.

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Creating energetic space isn’t about loss; it’s about alignment — a quiet return to yourself. It’s the clearing before the blessing, the sacred pause between what was and what’s next.

Some people are only meant for one page in our stories, and that’s okay. Gratitude doesn’t require permanence. Love doesn’t always mean closeness.

And peace doesn’t need to be proven — it just needs to be lived.

When we clear space with intention, we don’t just make room for blessings — we invite in the next version of ourselves waiting to emerge.

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Clearing space is how we say “yes” to the version of ourselves still unfolding.

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🌙 Author’s Note

Writing this piece was its own kind of clearing — a reminder that healing isn’t about perfection, but presence.

If something in these words met you where you are, take it as a sign that you’re already creating space for something new.

If you’re feeling called to deepen your journey — to release what no longer serves and reconnect with your own energy — I’d be honored to walk beside you.

You can explore intuitive readings and energy healing sessions through HigherHeartWarriorChannel.com.

With love,
– Hadija (Higher Heart Warrior Channel)

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